GRACE NOTES: Sep 13, 2023 – Rev. Kimberley Debus

We’ve been talking about belonging this month, so of course the Dunning-Kruger effect means I keep seeing articles and memes about belonging. I ran across a blog post by consultant Julian Stodd, who works with organizations around strategy, collaboration, and social leadership.

In his post, Stodd shared some questions that we might take up when thinking about belonging – and while some of them are geared toward leaders of organizations, several of them struck a chord with me on a personal level, and I am considering what it means for me to belong to a faith community as well as other communities I am connected to.

As we continue this consideration of belonging (as the opposite of fitting in), I invite you to consider your answers to these questions:

  1. What does it mean to belong?
  2. What do I gain from belonging?
  3. What is the cost of belonging, and which currencies do I pay it in?
  4. Can you endlessly belong, or is there a limit to how long you can belong for, or how many things you can belong to?
  5. Must you contribute to truly belong, or is it ok to simply sit, or consume?
  6. Do you need permission to belong?
  7. Can you gift belonging?
  8. Do you always belong with the same “self,” or do you curate a different self in different spaces?
  9. Can you invest too much in belonging to a particular community?

My hope is that your personal reflections guide you as you think about your sense of belonging in this CUUC community… and in turn, these reflections help us create a faith community of true belonging.

Rev. Kimberley